Sunday, October 25, 2009

How to Stop Worrying and Start Living: Chapters 1-10

The following are all quotes taken from Dale Carnegie's How to Stop Worrying and Start Living.

Chapter 1: Live in "Day-tight Compartments"

Shut the iron doors on the past and the future.

Life in day-tight compartments.

1. Do I tend to put off living in the present in order to worry about the future?
2. Do I sometimes embitter the present by regretting things that happened in the past and are over and done with?
3. Do I get up in the morning determined to 'seize the day' - to get the utmost out of the next twenty-four hours?
4. Can I get more out of life by living in day-tight compartments?
5. When shall I start to do this? Next week? Tomorrow? Today?

Chapter 2: A Magic Formula for Solving Worry Situations

1. Ask yourself, 'What is the worst that can possibly happen?'
2. Prepare to accept it if you have to.
3. Then calmly proceed to improve on the worst.

Chapter 3: What Worry May Do To You

Business men who do not know how to fight worry die young.

Another illuminating book about worry is lion Against Himself, by Dr. Karl Menninger, one of the "Mayo brothers of psychiatry." Dr. Menninger's book is a startling revelation of what you do to yourself when you permit destructive emotions to dominate your life. If you want to stop working against yourself, get this book. Read it. Give it to your friends. It costs four dollars-and is one of the best investments you can make in this life.

PART TWO: Basic Techniques in Analyzing Worry

Chapter 4: How to Analyze and Solve Worry Problems

1. Get the facts
2. Analyze the facts
3. Arrive at a decision - and then act on that decision.

"...if a man will devote his time to securing facts in an impartial, objective way, his worries usually evaporate in the light of knowledge." -Dean Hawkes

Banish worry by writing:
Question No. 1 - What am I worrying about?
Question No. 2 -What can I do about it?
Question No. 3 -Here is what I am going to do about it.
Question No. 4 -When am I going to start doing it?

Chapter 5: How to Eliminate Fifty Per Cent of Your Business Worries

1. What is the problem?
2. What is the cause of the problem?
3. What are all possible solutions to the problem?
4. What solution do you suggest?

PART THREE: How to Break the Worry Habit Before it Breaks You 

Chapter 6: How to Crowd Worry Out of Your Mind

I must lose myself in action, lest I wither in despair.

Chapter 7: Don't let the Beetles Get You Down

Let's not allow ourselves to be upset by small things we should despise and forget.

Remember, "Life is too short to be little."

Chapter 8: A Law That Will Outlaw Many of Our Worries

What are the chances, according to the law of averages, that this event I am worrying about will ever occur?

Chapter 9: Co-operate With the Inevitable

It is so. It cannot be otherwise.

Obviously, circumstances alone do not make us happy or unhappy. It is the way we react to circumstances that determines our feelings.

For every ailment under the sun.
There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it;
If there be none, never mind it.

When we stop fighting the inevitable, we release energy which enables us to create a richer life.
-Elsie Mac-Cormick

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.

Chapter 10: Put a 'stop-loss' Order on your Worries

We are fools when we overpay for a thing in terms of what it takes out of our very existence.

Whenever we are tempted to throw good money after bad in terms of human living, let's stop and ask ourselves:
1. How much does this thing I am worrying about really matter to me?
2. At what point shall I set a 'stop-loss' order on this worry - and forget it?
3. Exactly how much shall I pay for this whistle? Have I already paid more than it's worth?
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